Why Doing Death Better?
Why Doing Doing Death Better? Overall, here in the UK, we don’t “do” death very well and this in turn impacts on the way we grieve. It’s almost as if we are afraid to speak to people who have lost a loved one about the person who has died for fear of upsetting them. The truth of the matter is that most welcome the opportunity of speaking about their loved one and in turn their loss.
Take Gary, for instance – a young dad whose twin babies had died not long after birth. His story was incredibly moving – he and his wife had known that they were going to die when they were in the womb yet whilst there was life there was hope. Gary told us that he had found dealing with the “officials” that he had needed – the registrar, funeral director and Vicar were three he named – after they had died was particularly hard because he felt that they didn’t care because not one of them showed any emotion and that made him angry.
The reality is the people he dealt with can’t have failed to be moved by his loss but probably felt it inappropriate to “burden him” with their empathetic tears also so they did the “British stiff upper lip” thing and kept their feelings to themselves. We need to do death better.
That is what this website is about. We have gathered those individuals who, in our opinion, do death well. Those who, like us, are passionate about turning the mourning of a death into the celebration of a life. They are not afraid to speak of death and dying sometimes to those who know their death is imminent.
The website is designed to help you to find resources for whatever you are looking for from estate planning and will writing through to end-of-life advice and preparation for what happens after death.
Have you ever wondered though, who cares for those who care for the dead? We’ve seen massive strain put on all death related services in the last few years, particularly since the event of the pandemic. This website is also designed to be a source of support for those involved every day in caring for the dead and those facing death. We have a forum where support can be sought whether it’s just a virtual cup of tea and a chat, help sourcing a particular service or simply great advice from those with the experience to share best practise as they know it.
It our hope that as we grow this website that it will become the go to place for those looking for help, inspiration, kindness and peace at a time when they need it most.
